Monday, June 9, 2008

Mommy She Wrote

Mahwah author shares her craft with young writers
Monday, June 9, 2008
Last updated: Monday June 9, 2008, EDT 8:24 AM
BY EVELYN SHIH
STAFF WRITER
Left: photo by staff photographer Tariq Zehawi.

As a teenager in Georgia, Leigh-Anne Kidwell loved to read. She knew what she liked – Judy Blume's "Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret" was her favorite — and she dabbled in writing short stories and poems.

Blume was her hero, but Kidwell never thought she could be "that person."

"I did not seek out writing as a career," said Kidwell, who now lives in Mahwah. "Because it wasn't touchable."

Fast-forward to her 30s. Now a published author of two books for the tween and teen sets (ages 9 to 15), Kidwell teaches creative writing. Her mission: to show kids that their dreams of becoming writers are within reach.

"I want to let them know, 'You can do this,' " she said. "... There are a lot great young authors out there."

Kidwell will be reading from her books, 2005's "The Year I Lost My Popularity" and 2006's "Summer Vineyard," at the Mahwah Public Library on Tuesday afternoon. She also will be signing up students for a free once-a-week writing workshop at the library during July.

The workshop is a version of a program Kidwell created in Tennessee, where she and her family lived until a year and a half ago. Unlike most creative writing classes, which focus on generating finished stories, Kidwell also teaches kids how to get published.

"There are many avenues they actually can go through at their age to get their work in print," she said.

Kidwell deviated from the writer's path for about 15 years — through college and then 10 years in the fashion merchandising industry — before she finally sat down again and put pen to paper.

And when Kidwell sat down at the drawing board for her first book, she set tweens in her sights.

"I call it the innocent before the trouble," said Kidwell of the middle-school years. "... It's when I started knowing about the reading world and was reading books all the time."

It was also when her world changed. At 13, Kidwell's family moved to a different town in Georgia, and the experience stuck with her. Her first book, "The Year I Lost My Popularity," is loosely based on her own process of fitting in at a new school.

But the appeal of middle-grade books isn't limited to kids the same age as the protagonists, Kidwell added.

In fact, the fans tend to be much younger.

"When they're 9, they're thinking about being 13," she said. Kidwell is writing a third novel, "The Power of Three," which chronicles the troubled friendship of three teenage girls. Her life as a full-time mother of a 6-year-old and a 2-year-old provides ample inspiration.

"I go to the mall or the park, and I hear teenagers talk," she said. "I listen to my baby sitters. In my workshops, I like to have students treat me as one of them as much as possible."

Friday, June 6, 2008

Chuck Mangione!

Hats off to a jazz master
Friday, June 6, 2008
Last updated: Friday June 6, 2008, EDT 5:47 AM
BY EVELYN SHIH
STAFF WRITER
WHO: Chuck Mangione and His Feels So Good Band.
WHAT: Smooth jazz.
WHEN: 8 p.m. Saturday.
WHERE: Tarrytown Music Hall, 13 Main St., Tarrytown, N.Y.; 877-840-0457 or tarrytownmusichall.org.
HOW MUCH: $38 to $58.
WHERE TO HEAR: chuckman gione.com.

Smooth jazz legend Chuck Mangione had two dreams as a youngster: playing for the Yankees and playing for Art Blakey's Jazz Messengers.

Image courtesy of scaruffi.com

He thought that perhaps he could do both, a day job and a night job. After all, he sometimes played several baseball games a day before his mother drove him to an Italian wedding or a bar mitzvah, where he entertained guests with his trumpet.

Only one dream ended up coming true: Mangione did play with the Jazz Messengers after a stint with his brother Gap in a band they called the Jazz Brothers. The Messengers experience launched his career as a jazz superstar, though he soon switched to the flugelhorn.

More than 50 years after he picked up his first instrument, the Grammy Award-winning musician is still on tour, and he's coming to the Tarrytown Music Hall with his Feels So Good band. The band name refers to one of his best-known tunes.

"When we go to Tarrytown, I'm sure I'm going to see people who attended every performance that I had at Tarrytown," said Mangione. "We've existed for a long, long time. People have a connection to your music. ... I have people tell me how important this particular record was to them. How they fell in love to this particular music. When they were down, another composition lifted their spirits.

"It's a very humbling experience to hear the stories and experience of people who have been touched by this music," he added.

Although he reached the zenith of his fame in the '70s and '80s, Mangione experienced a resurgence after his animated cameo in the television show "King of the Hill."

"Not long ago, this guy comes dragging his kid over and says, 'You're Chuck Mangione, right? I'm a big fan.' And the kid says, 'Hey, you're that guy from 'King of the Hill!' " Mangione said with a chuckle.

The character was drawn with Mangione's trademark brimmed hat, which has unintentionally become his iconic accessory.

"Way back in 1970, I got it as a gift from two good friends," said Mangione. "I wore it occasionally. Then it became the cover for an album of mine called 'Friends and Love.' ... I went out on tour, and the record company said, 'Where's the hat?' So I started wearing that, and that became part of the image.

"It's not the same hat, and certainly I don't wear it all the time," he added. "It would be hard to shower."

With that same serendipity, Mangione accidentally returned to the dream that he left behind. His music gained a staunch fan: Yankees owner George Steinbrenner.

"George asked me to play the anthem at Yankee Stadium," he said. "Then we would be playing at Fort Lauderdale when they had spring training. We would go to the games, and the ballplayers would come to our concerts. They got to know us."

Like any other Mangione performance, the anthem is played with his unique aesthetic.

"Play it clean, play it straight from the heart," he said.

It's his simple, crisp tone — and his irrepressible playfulness — that keeps bringing fans back to a song he wrote. You might even call it his personal anthem.

"I'd just love to have people come out to Tarrytown," he said. "It's a wonderful, intimate setting. I guarantee that they're gonna feel so good!"
Copyright Northjersey.com

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Parents Flock Online

Gen-X parents have their space online now
Monday, June 2, 2008
Last updated: Monday June 2, 2008, EDT 6:09 PM
BY EVELYN SHIH
STAFF WRITER

Left: Famzam.com. 
Chris Schwartz’s child isn’t due until September. 
But girl or boy, Virgo or Libra, the littlest Schwartz has already been the subject of adoration in Pennsylvania, Louisiana, Texas and New Zealand.

Schwartz has been posting sonograms on his personal page at Famzam.com, a new family-friendly networking site founded by Anthony Lamme of Oakland. Like many Generation-X parents, the 35-year-old Schwartz has incorporated the Internet in his parenting — even before his child is born.

“I like to think we have the youngest social networking child in the world, at five months before birth,” said Schwartz, a Linden native.

For Gen-X parents in North Jersey, it’s no longer enough to use resources on the Internet passively. Several thirty- and fortysomethings have used their Web savvy to create sites that are a new space for their generation, apart from that of the dominant youth culture.

Partly, they are being forced to actively engage with Web culture because their children are (or will be) in the cyber world as early as 2 or 3 years of age. But mostly, the Internet is starting to become a new frontier for Gen-Xers who want to claim niches for themselves.

“I was in my early 30s when MySpace and the other sites became popular,” said Lamme, 35. “But I only want to communicate with people I know. I have absolutely no interest in going out and meeting strangers.”

What’s more, teens and twentysomethings consider older people encroaching on “their” space “creepy,” he added.

The former Wall Street trader decided to team up with Indian Hills High School classmate Mark Murphy and create a social connection site that made it easy to share things such as recipes, pictures and videos — and difficult for potential stalkers to ply their trade.

The site is intended as a way to connect far-flung family members. Lamme’s mother-in-law, Betsy McIntyre, lives in North Carolina and sees his twin daughters, Ashley and Haley, only twice a year in person. But with Lamme’s video blog, “she gets to see them grow up online,” he said. Lamme hopes to reach the boomer generation and beyond with his twist on social networking.

There is a strong demand for safe socializing spaces online — especially for children under age 10 — because of the rapidly changing rules of cyberspace, says Lauren Trudeau of Franklin Lakes. Networking sites like MySpace and Facebook are in easy reach of any finger big enough to click a mouse, and children are becoming socialized online earlier and earlier.

In order to protect and monitor her two children, Trudeau founded Yokidsyo.com, a parent-monitored e-mail and instant-message portal for kids. Eighteen months ago, at ages 7 and 8, Mark and Cassandra Trudeau were “a lot more advanced than we thought they would be,” said Trudeau.

“They wanted e-mail, they wanted instant messaging,” she explained. “They were headed toward Facebook and MySpace, which I felt was inappropriate for their age.”

Left: image courtesy of the Wired blog.

Trudeau and her husband, then in their mid-30s, felt compelled to create Yokidsyo as a private forum for their own kids and their friends. News of the site spread quickly by word of mouth, and today membership is at 25,000, mostly consisting of Bergen County children and their parents, according to Trudeau.

“Children that are my kids’ baby sitters, who are 15 and 16 — when they were younger, all this stuff wasn’t out there,” said Trudeau.
Yokidsyo, administered by Trudeau and a group of six local parents, is a way to keep kids from growing up too fast. But one Hoboken couple, Jonathan and Jennifer Rich, are trying to help kids grow more quickly — in their frontal lobes.

Jennifer Rich, a former public school teacher and reading specialist, writes all the content for children’s book review site Ethansbookshelf.com. Parents can find appropriate books by age and topic in the ever-growing database of reviews. The site is named after the couple’s 18-month-old son, Ethan.

“We’re lucky, because [Jennifer] knows good books,” said Jonathan Rich, 32. “But if you’re a young parent, and you don’t know what to get for your child, [other book sites] don’t give much guidance.”

Now staying at home with Ethan, Jennifer Rich, 30, makes use of her expertise and her son’s nap time to write about children’s fiction classics and new books that are sent to her for review. The Riches dreamed up the site after realizing how often she was asked by friends for book recommendations on an informal basis.

For all of these Web entrepreneurs, the end game is to be a better parent — and to help others do the same.


Copyright ©2008 North Jersey Media Group

Monday, May 26, 2008

Fashion Stylings of the 10 and under

Child-friendly salons put new twist on style trends
Monday, May 26, 2008
Last updated: Monday May 26, 2008, EDT 8:38 AM
BY EVELYN SHIH
STAFF WRITER

Julia Favaro of Demarest sits marvelously still for a 3-year-old.

Left: Ivelisse Vargas, 3, watches Dora the Explorer as stylist Sara Pakzad gives her a French braid. Photo by staff photographer Danielle Richards.

Hairstylist Sara Pakzad pats down Julia's newly shorn bob, then produces a short, fat brush half the size of the child's head. She dusts off the smiling girl and helps her out of her cloak. Julia holds her arms out to Pakzad to be picked up.

Julia "loves getting her hair done," said her mom, Christine Favaro. She fingered the small braid on her daughter's head. "She only lets Sarah do this — not me."

Julia has been getting her hair cut by Pakzad at David Alan's Cuts for Kids in Paramus for more than half of her young life. She's one of many North Jersey kids who may never experience what was once a staple of childhood: Mom's kitchen-sink bowl cuts.

These days, whether they're sporting haircuts that imitate Mommy and Daddy, or hairdos that resemble teen sensations like Hannah Montana or Zack and Cody, kids are stylin'. Along with the boom in children's clothing and products, professional hairstyling has become yet another part of the modern child's landscape. Babies as young as a few months old are getting their heads buzzed.

"The kids look good earlier and earlier nowadays," said Jennifer Bilek, founder of Get Coiffed, a Manhattan-based hairstyling business that offers in-home children's haircuts. Though most of her clientele consists of higher-income families, she believes that this is the next wave in hair styling.

"Especially in the urban areas, you can have a 6-month-old dressed to the nines. ... The whole children's industry is still in explosion."

Stylish offspring

Bilek said the attention being paid to children's hair comes part and parcel with a parental obsession to have stylish-looking offspring. And lest you think that it's just the parents, don't be fooled: Kids know exactly what they want.

Picture: Hannah Montana, aka Miley Cyrus.

"They bring pictures in, they say I want to look like him or her," said Chuck Moschetto, owner of Charlie's Kids Salon in Paramus. Idols from the Disney Channel and Nickelodeon media empires like the Jonas Brothers and the "High School Musical" characters inspire waves of pint-sized imitators.

To be sure, salons like David Alan's Cuts for Kids, owned by David Perlman, are not new: Perlman opened the child-friendly storefront 18 years ago. But kid-focused salon franchises like Snip-its have become popular in recent years: Thirty-one stores out of 60 opened between 2004 and 2005, including a Rockaway branch. Until 2002, the franchise business had only five salons.

Each Snip-its has colorful, eye-catching décor and branded characters designed by an animator, as well as a Magic Box with prizes at the end of the haircut. Stylists distract and entertain children by blowing soap bubbles, said Rockaway manager Dinah Janowski.

Recognizing that cutting kids' hair can be big business (haircuts can range from $15 to $25), salon owners are starting to cater to the younger set.

In recent years, some salons have added birthday parties to their list of services. Snip-its hosts "glamour" parties, where girls get the beauty salon treatment, then walk down a red carpet in a mini fashion show. Perlman will soon introduce "makeover" parties, where girls can get clip-on hair extensions, re-creating the Hannah Montana look.

An emphasis on fun

Kids are still kids, though, so the emphasis is on creating a fun, comfortable environment. In order to keep children seated, kid-friendly salons are usually full of distractions such as televisions, video games, toys and candy. They also try to hire stylists with an essential virtue: patience.

"Kids are scared of noises, like the [clippers]," said David Alan's stylist Philip Teresi. "They see this machine come out, and they think their heads are going to be chopped off. So I put it against my hand and show them that there's no boo-boo."

David Alan's Cuts for Kids has themed seating that suggests being on safari, or being a ballerina or baseball player. There are seats designed to look like Jeeps and even a giant stuffed giraffe. But Julia knows the best part: It comes after every haircut.

"Lollipop and balloon!" she said, walking toward the balloon station.

Ryan Balatbat of Waldwick, 2, has a different goal in mind. After his cut, he heads straight for the Thomas the Tank Engine train set. He and his older brother, 4-year-old Patrick, get haircuts every five weeks. He knows his way around David Alan's.

"My oldest son didn't get professional cuts until he was 3," said mother Kathy Balatbat, watching her son out of the corner of her eye as she stood at the cash register. "My husband used to cut it ... but here they're really 1-2-3. Both of them are done in half an hour."

E-mail: shih@northjersey.com

Steaks...Made of Eggplant

Eggplant steaks with teriyaki marinade and dipping sauce
Monday, May 26, 2008
Last updated: Monday May 26, 2008, EDT 8:54 AM

Vegetarian recipes from recently released cookbooks:

"The New Vegetarian Grill," by Andrea Chesman (The Harvard Common Press, 2008)

Veggie burgers won't be the only vegetarian fare on the grill for today's Memorial Day gathering. Andrea Chesman's collection shows you how to grill everything from artichokes to plantains to the eggplant steaks below. Vegetables, unlike meat, contain no fat and must be brushed with oil or marinade. But, with the exception of eggplant and mushrooms, they don't need time to soak it in. Caramelizing in the vegetable skin and in the surface applied marinade will create a "nicely brown, slightly crunchy exterior," Chesman writes.

— Evelyn Shih

1 medium-size eggplant, peeled and sliced an inch thick
1/2 cup teriyaki marinade and dipping sauce, recipe follows
Prepare a medium hot fire in the grill.

In a shallow bowl, combine the eggplant and the marinade. Toss well to coat. Let the eggplant stand for at least 15 minutes to absorb the marinade.

Grill the eggplant, turning occasionally, until tender and grill-marked, about 10 minutes. The eggplant should be slightly crusty on the outside but soft and moist inside. Serve hot.

Servings: 4.

Per serving: 93 calories, 3 grams fat, 0.5 grams saturated fat, no cholesterol, 15 grams carbohydrates, 2 grams protein, 511 milligrams sodium, 5 grams fiber.

2 tablespoons toasted sesame oil
1 tablespoon canola or peanut oil
1 tablespoon minced fresh ginger
2 garlic cloves, minced
1/2 cup tamari or soy sauce
1/4 cup dry sherry
3 tablespoons brown sugar
2 tablespoons fresh lime juice
1/4 cup orange juice
1 tablespoon cornstarch

In a saucepan over medium-high heat, combine sesame and canola oils. Add the ginger and garlic and cook, stirring, until fragrant, about 1 minute. Add the tamari, sherry, brown sugar and lime juice. Bring to a boil.

In a small bowl, mix together the orange juice and cornstarch until smooth. Stir it into the tamari mixture and cook until the sauce is thickened, about 5 minutes. Set aside to cool.

Use immediately or store in a refrigerated airtight container for up to one week.

Yield: 1 1/4 cups.

Sunday, May 25, 2008

Weekend bikers are a far cry from Hell’s Angels
Saturday, May 24, 2008
Last updated: Saturday May 24, 2008, EDT 8:13 PM
BY EVELYN SHIH
Staff Writer

Raymond Brunelle of Upper Saddle River is vice president of a Chicago-based food packaging company, but he has something to look forward to during the workweek in the Windy City. Every weekend, Brunelle flies home to North Jersey, dons a leather jacket and rides the region’s twisty back roads on his sports bike.

Picture: ALDO MARTINEZ Jr. / SPECIAL TO THE RECORD

“Why do some people play golf every week?” said Brunelle when asked why he goes to such lengths to ride his motorcycle. “Instead of playing golf, I ride.”

Gone are the days when motorcycle riding was equated with skull-and-wings insignias or long hair. Today, North Jersey motorcycle enthusiasts rarely fit the traditional stereotype of The Biker: They range from single moms to Wall Street traders to computer programmers. Many are baby boomers who choose biking as a lifestyle or hobby — not for an identity or a gang affiliation.

A new breed of cyclist takes to the road for pure enjoyment and “the mastery of it,” said Brunelle, 50, who leads a group of local sports bikers from April to October on two-hour rides that can cover up to 80 miles.

And weekends are their thing.

Teaneck resident Dwayne Pierce, who got his first bike almost two decades ago, said that in recent years the Internet has enabled riders of all stripes – from owners of pricey Harley Davidsons to fans of powerful sport bikes, the young to the middle aged, men and women – to connect and ride in weekend groups.

“When you’re riding on your own, it’s you and 300 cars,” said Pierce, 46, an insurance company sales representative who stopped riding for two years after he got married, but resumed when “the feeling came back.

“When you’re riding together, people know you’re there.”

Group rides are simultaneously a solitary act — each rider on his or her own vehicle — and an exercise in group movement. Good organization is key to group rides, said Jerry Volpe of Ramsey. He should know.

Seals friendships

Volpe, a retired elementary and middle school music teacher, rode a motorbike for the first time on his honeymoon in Bermuda 11 years ago and got his New Jersey motorcycle license on a whim. Today, though, he is a road captain in one of the local Harley Owners Groups (or HOGs), which organize informal weekly weekend “meet-ups” that can swell to as many as 60 riders.

“If we want to move into the left lane, I’ll tell the rear captain,” said Volpe, 61, referring to a rider at the end of the pack. “He’ll move to the left lane to block it off, then signal me. I’ll check my mirror to make sure it’s OK, signal, and move the whole group over.”

Whether it’s the effect of group-think or the simple joy of pulling off a beautiful ride with a convoy of bikers, you grow closer to people after you ride together, said Volpe and others. Pierce, for example, recently attended the wedding of a friend he met through weekend rides.

“It’s social also, when you’re off the bike,” he said. “You become close friends with many of your riding buddies.”

On a more public level, bikers band together to organize charity rides, such as the FealGood Foundation benefit on May 10, which paid tribute to those who perished on 9/11. Sponsored by the Bergen County Harley-Davidson/Buell dealership in Rochelle Park, the ride involved hundreds of cyclists and briefly closed the George Washington Bridge .

Women bikers

Local bikers also come together in faith: One of the region’s largest mass bike blessings was held earlier this month by the Christian Riders Motorcycle Club at St. John’s Church in Paterson.

Image: A "biker chick," courtesy of Spaceg.com.

“I’ve never met a bad person biking,” said Diane DiSavino of Pompton Plains, a former road captain for an all-woman riding group called the Riding Divas. She’s currently a member of the Ladies of Harley and takes trips as far as Milwaukee and Myrtle Beach, S.C. She also sees riding as a more informal tool for socializing.

“Want to meet the ladies for ice cream? Make it 8 o’clock,” she said. “Let’s go.”

A former passenger on her ex-husband’s Harley, DiSavino is one of a burgeoning number of North Jersey women moving into the driver’s seat. Nationwide, women make up a projected 11 to 12 percent of all motorcycle owners in 2008, and their numbers are growing.

DiSavino, who quit her job in January as a mortgage underwriter to join the Bergen Harley-Davidson/Buell dealership staff, finds women-only rides helpful because some female riders can be intimidated by men.

“I see couples walk in, and if the woman looks interested, the husband or boyfriend will be like, ‘Are you crazy? You can’t do that,’ÿ” said DiSavino, who runs a motorcycle safety course. Often, the woman customer will leave, and some come back – alone.

She herself loves everything about biking, down to its superstitions – like the rider’s bell. “When a new rider gets a bike, someone has to get them a bell to hang from the bike – they can’t get it themselves,” DiSavino said. “It wards off the road demons.”

E-mail: shih@northjersey.com

Friday, May 23, 2008

Black Humor

Eddie Griffin's outspoken comedy
Friday, May 23, 2008
Last updated: Friday May 23, 2008, EDT 7:04 AM
BY EVELYN SHIH
STAFF WRITER

Funnyman and actor Eddie Griffin will be taking over Carolines on Broadway this weekend, the first time he will perform at the New York comedy club. Though he has already conquered the movie theater ("Deuce Bigalow: European Gigolo," "John Q") and television ("Malcolm and Eddie"), he still performs stand-up comedy on a weekly basis.

Griffin has also signed on to star in a new reality show on VH1 about his life, tentatively titled "Eddie Griffin Goes for Broke" and scheduled to start airing in 2009. He took time off his busy schedule to talk about his life and his comedy.

Q. What will your new show be like?

We have no idea. It's reality.
[VH1] approached me with the idea. They're going to follow me around with a camera.

Q. Are you looking forward to that?

My life is a movie. Someone should film it. I am the real "Truman Show."
Q. You live in Los Angeles, and you've done stand-up all over the country. Does the New York area audience play differently than the other audiences?

It's the same everywhere. People are people. They have the same concerns and desires. People got a different accent: the Boston, the Louisiana accents. But they all fall in and out of love. They all laugh at the same things.

Q. You will be appearing in an upcoming documentary, "Why We Laugh: Black Comedians on Black Comedy." What is different about black comedy?

The guy who's doing material about black people is usually black. Because people of any other race may come off as racist if they do the same jokes. Given what black people have gone through in this country, it's hard for them not to.

Because of that, black comedy has more bite than European comedy, I think.

Q. What's a funny New York story you know?

Let me tell you a funny thing about New York. After 9/11, the Fire Department were heroes. Now it's — how many years later? — and when they slash the budget, they slash the fire department budgets. That's so full of [expletive] that it's hilarious.

Where are the flag wavers now?

Q. Will you be doing some political comedy this weekend, considering the political climate we're in?

Oh, yeah.

Q. What did you think about the West Virginia primary results?

What we had was not a primary. What we had was the media having a sports event. Somebody call [Hillary Clinton] at 3 a.m. and tell her it's over!

If [Barack Obama] were a white candidate, they would've announced his win already, like John McCain.

They're just fighting tooth and nail to keep anything of color out of the White House. That's why they call it the White House.

Now there's black humor for you.